When I went to the post office today I had my yearly reminder from the ring company where I purchased my wedding rings that my anniversary was coming up. Mind you my marriage lasted less than a month and a half but I’ve never taken the time to let the company know my marriage did not last. What surprised me about the letter this year was that this year would have been our ten year anniversary. I was devastated when my husband wanted a divorce after such a brief marriage but now it realize it was in fact a blessing in disguise. I won’t bore you with the details of our wedding and subsequent divorce but will say I did love the rings we picked out. I made sure I took both rings with me when I left and after about ten months I was reading a magazine that had an article about a woman who made jewelry and one piece of jewelry she made were divorce bracelets. I loved the idea of still being able to wear my ring but in a different form. I also picked out some stones to go with my ring. It was very healing to melt down the ring to a ball of gold and in a few weeks I had a phone call saying my bracelet was complete. I love it and made a bracelet for my Mom out of my ex-husband’s ring. My Mom was there for me when my husband left so I thought it was a good gift to her. I wear my bracelet every day as I love it and it reminds me of a commitment I made to myself and a higher power.
As I look forward to the future, live in the present and remember the past I am amazed at where I am as compared to ten years ago. I am in a much better place and am blessed by my family and friends. One event I’m looking forward to next year is my nephew Jeremy’s wedding to his fiancé Justine. I really enjoy their company. They have visited me and my Mom a number of times over the years and I always stop and see them when I’m in New England. The thing I am most excited about is the possibility of bring a flower girl for their wedding. I have been a bride, bridesmaid and maid of honor but never a flower girl. Hoping I make the cut! I love them and am happy to see them getting married.
I have tomorrow off at my night time job and am looking forward to the break. I have pet sitting jobs consisting of some dog walks. But I have more free time so I am visiting a friend and heading to the Academy of the Arts for the annual Children’s and Young Adults art exhibit. I am also enjoying a book Miss Peregrines Home For Peculiar Children. I love reading children’s and young adult books as much if not more than adult books. It is one of my goals to write a children’s book.
Do you find yourself at a place you never thought you’d be at if someone had asked you ten years ago where you would be? I hope you have some fun goals for yourself and have a beautiful Tuesday!! Thanks for reading.
I love this post, Becca. I love what you did with the wedding rings….honoring what you had while showing how you grew from the experience.
You also gave off a feeling of calm and peace throughout the entire post. It’s catching! Hope your day is marked with beautiful happenings.
I’m glad you enjoyed the post. It took me many years to find calm and now that I have it I know not let it go.
It’s wonderful to hear how your life is so much better now Becca. Love the idea of the divorce bracelet.
I love my bracelet and get many compliments on it. People are often shocked I melted the ring down. It makes me happy wearing it.
Calling the jeweler now! What a great idea!
Share a picture of yours when it is complete. I’d love to see it.
I LOVE your bracelet and the whole story behind it. There is nothing better than turning a crisis into something beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks I’m glad you enjoyed the post and bracelet. I am amazed at the response I have gotten from this post.
What a great idea, what courage you have too! I am not where I thought I would be 10 years ago, but now I am glad that things worked out as they did. But I have to admit I was kicking and screaming all the way in the beginning! But I am learning to be calm and peaceful in my life, and make alot of changes in my thinking and outlook on life too. These are things that came out of the changes that I am so glad for. I am learning to love my husband in a way I never did before either. Life is good……with all it’s ups and downs!
I have to say I was kicking and screaming to at times. And still have the occasional temper tantrum but I’m learning. I love how you say you are loving your husband in ways you had not expected. That is great!