Relationships, Friendships and Tranquility

One of my favorite views on the Marginal Way. I used to sit here with my Dad. Not in view is a lovely park bench facing out to sea.

Michael and I had a whopper of a disagreement yesterday. Things got heated quickly and hurtful things were said by both of us. After a while we stop speaking as there is nothing more to say and we silently go our separate ways. Michael went to work on his truck and I went to read in our bedroom. We did not speak for much of the day. We stayed apart. I made us dinner and we watched tv together. I know it is said not to go to sleep angry but it seems to work for us. By the morning things are usually better. We were both hesitant this morning with each other. I took Michael to get bloodwork done at the VA and then went to visit my mom.

I find it difficult with Covid to keep up with my friends. Texting can be helpful but it is not the same as being present with the other. I miss my friends. With all that has happened with my mom this year it has been hard finding free time. I have been taking time to read. I am on my third book of the year. A big deal for me recently.

I talked with my mom tonight and she is excited to participate in an outing tomorrow. The activities director is taking a few residents on a car ride. They all have had the first vivid vaccine and have been tested many times over the past few months. Everyone is negative. I am glad my mom will be able to get out as she has not been able to go out since she moved to assisted living in September. She laughingly told me she asked if she could drive the little bus the facility has- the director laughed as did mom but a lot of the residents don’t know how to take my mom’s humor. I loved it.

I am working really hard to find a bit of peace and tranquility each day. Some days are better than others. I love feeding the birds, reading and cooking. I am really enjoying writing again. Have you noticed the days having been getting longer with sunlight?

6 thoughts on “Relationships, Friendships and Tranquility

  1. Loving the longer days. I remember those kind of fights. I did NOT like that part of being in relationship! The fights were always some kind of necessary clearing, though. It’s good you take the time to read during them:) The photo is gorgeous. I am so happy to read your writing Becca.

  2. Very nice photo, what a tranquil scene. Special that the memory of Dad adds to it for you. Ah, we all disagree at times it seems. It is only natural. Great that you are able to spend time with your Mom. Cool that your mother wanted to drive. Tough giving up things we did and can no longer do as we age. Wonderful that she can laugh abut it. Oft times I take things to seriously. It always works out given time. Have a blessed day. Listen to some favored music to lift the spirit…

  3. Best to you becca. I don’t often comment but tdo read your journal and enjoy your candor is discussing life’s ups and down. The longer days will make all things brighter with time but we still have February to go – sometimes a rotten, cold and snowy month and other years early signs of spring. Find cheer where you can- it’s out there – under the snow and leaves sometimes. Kick things around till you find its hiding places. Dick in Missouri

    • Thank you. One of the joys of my day today was witnessing five separate large flicks of geese flying high over me. Each flock had over two hundred in them one looked even larger. I could not tell if they were Canada geese or snow geese but what a treat it was to see. Thank you for your kind words.

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